Family Matters | Week 2

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22

“A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.”
Proverbs 27:15-16

“Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.”
Colossians 3:19

“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, He has identified you as His own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Ephesians 4:29-32

5 Marriage Killers

Unexpressed Expectations

“Unexpressed expectations lead to unmet expectations.”

“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.”
– Brené Brown

Comparison

Keeping Secrets

Invalidating Emotions

5 Validating Questions:

How was your day today?

I am sorry, that sounds hard.

I can see how you would feel ___ because of ___.

That makes sense that you would feel ____ because of ____.

What do you need from me right now?

Let me try to paraphrase and summarize what you’re saying. You’re saying…

Conflict Avoidance